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» My ADHD Slip is Showing!

My ADHD Slip is Showing!

ADHD Strategies, Adults with ADHD    May 31, 2017

It happened again today. I slipped up. I accidentally mis-scheduled an interview with a colleague and showed up exactly two days late. Oops. I feel awful. I hate it when things like this happen…letting someone down is the worst for me.

I know what happens next. I will apologize profusely, tell her this sort of thing rarely happens, and thank her for allowing me to reschedule. I know the drill, because actually this sort of thing is happening more and more.

Hold on, before I am tempted to go into a litany of the things I mess up, let me back up and explain.

Growing up in the 60’s and 70’s I wore dresses to school every day except Friday. Friday was “casual” day, so I wore slacks. Like proper girls of that era I wore a slip under my dress and being the second girl in my family I would get hand me downs from my sister. And like most hand me downs, initially my slips were a bit large and long and would literally slip down and start showing beneath my dress. I was constantly checking and rerolling the waist band to keep it “from snowing down south” a phrase Australians use for this common slip showing dilemma.

My ADHD is like that. I’ll be going along through my days thinking that everything is tucked in, loose ends rolled up, things running smoothly…and then, bam…there it is again. My ADHD slip is showing and it seems I am the last to realize it.

You may not know this, but only recently was I diagnosed with ADHD. Amazing, I know…but true. My colleagues’ and kids’ response to my official diagnosis has typically been “duh…of course!” Not that the diagnosis was a surprise to me, but it has definitely been a feeling of “slip” dé ja vu…realizing that I was probably the last to notice what was obvious to everyone…that my slip…err ADHD…was showing.

It’s actually quite common for women in mid-life to be first diagnosed with ADHD.  Like everyone who is eventually diagnosed with ADHD, we were born with this brain style. It’s just that an individual’s tipping point, the point when they aren’t able to compensate for the ADHD symptoms any more, is different. For women, it’s a hormone thing. As we all know, menopause brings with it physical changes in our bodies. And for women undiagnosed with ADHD up to this point, the biological dip of estrogen in their body means that there is also less estrogen available in their brains to help bind dopamine to the receptors. Less dopamine means less activation of the frontal lobe. Less activation of the frontal lobe means more executive function challenges, impulsivity, hyperactivity and distractibility. And often the first time in their lives, mid-life undiagnosed ADHD women start to “slip” up and begin wondering what the heck is happening. Luckily for me, because of my work with persons with ADHD, once my “slips” started to impact my life I picked up the phone a made a call to my doctor.

Yep, I am officially diagnosed with ADHD and despite my conscientious intentions and best efforts to check and recheck my calendar, clocks, lists and alarms, I will probably continue to slip up from time to time and let people down every now and then. It’s not an excuse, just an explanation.

If you are like me, a woman in transition between the ages of 35-60, recently diagnosed with ADHD hoping to keep your ADHD slips from showing here are some ways I have found that help:

  • If you think/know you are/have gone through menopause and are experiencing an increase in misremembering, distractibility and lack of focus, make an appointment with your health care provider to get a baseline level of your hormones checked. For some women, bioidentical hormone replacement therapy is all that’s needed.
  • If you were diagnosed earlier in life with ADHD and are using medication as part of your management strategy and are noticing a reduction in the benefits of your medication…make an appointment with your health care provider to check your hormone levels. It is possible that lower levels of estrogen are impacting the effectiveness of your medication.
  • Get enough and consistent sleep! Second only to medication, sleep or the lack of it can significantly affect how we experience our ADHD. Despite the challenges of sleep and the lure of middle of the night productivity, getting consistent restful sleep will result in a reduction of ADHD symptoms.
  • Keep time in your face always. At a minimum you need at least one clock in each room that you can see at all times. This includes bathrooms, laundry rooms, garages, mud rooms, basements and even walk in closets!
  • Revisit what worked in the past to keep you organized and on task. A significant difference I am still adjusting to is using an online calendar so my team can access it as well. It’s great that technology allows these options, however in the past I was a pen and planner gal and not utilizing that tactile method any longer has had its drawbacks. Time for me to pull out the planner!
  • I won’t pretend to be the best exerciser, but I know without a doubt that exercise provides a plethora of benefits to ADHD brains. Movement increase dopamine in our body and oxygen to our brain. Not to mention keeping that muffin top from turning into a bundt cake.
  • Make time for what energizes you. This is perhaps one of the biggest changes I have made recently. Realizing the increased chance for an ADHD slip, I find that making time daily to do something that energizes me provides the brain fuel I need to focus on things less interesting.

10 Responses to My ADHD Slip is Showing!

  1. Ann Hale     June 1, 2017    12:13 pm    Reply

    Thank you for this article. I too was past 50 when I was diagnosed. So much of my life suddenly made sense! I read a book by Katherine Springer with the main character as an adult with ADD. She called it “Attention Deficit Designed.” That helped my vision of myself. Thankfully, I have a patient husband. I hope this article will help him understand me better.

    • Laurie Dupar     June 2, 2017    7:22 am    Reply

      Thank you, Ann for reading and responding! Glad to hear you have a patient husband. Helps tremendously. I will have to check out that book!

    • laurie     July 3, 2017    7:13 pm    Reply

      Hi Ann,

      Thanks for the comment…glad that the article resonated with you. Thanks for sharing the book…I haven’t heard of it and I am definitely going to check it out. It can be hard for people…even those that love us to understand what living with ADHD is like. Stay in touch..will you? ~Laurie

  2. Mike mettie     June 2, 2017    6:38 am    Reply

    I am 61 male, I thought I did not have time to use this service so daily deleted these emails. I have books on adhd, have self mediated and currently stopped taking medication. This article confirmed I need this support, we are great at believing we can do this without help and I will loose a unconditional loving beautiful bride of 17 years if I continual my denial and my self help program that doesn’t work.
    I was raised in the 60s and 70s with 5 sisters the slip below the skirt caught my eye. Blessed by the article. Ready to engage in the programs here. Thank you. Mike

    • laurie     July 3, 2017    7:17 pm    Reply

      Hi Mike…I’m glad this article caught your attention. It seems to be true…the sense of community when we realize other people “get it”. You and I were raised in a similar time…so humbled that you feel blessed by the article. I am just glad it resonated in a way that had you responding. Having written some of those books on ADHD …you’re right this is different. You are not alone…I hope to keep you engaged…let me know what you would like to know/hear about…Ok? ~Laurie

  3. Laurie Dupar     June 2, 2017    7:24 am    Reply

    Hello Mike – Thank you also for reading and sharing your thoughts. Yes, we can do it alone usually, until we can’t! Happy to talk with you about coaching and how many I can help, if you’d like. Reach out to me at and we can set up a complimentary consultation.


  4. Cathy Goett     June 10, 2017    7:41 pm    Reply

    Laurie, thanks for sharing. Its good to know there are so many ways to help with our ADHD.

    • laurie     July 3, 2017    7:18 pm    Reply

      Hey! Always my pleasure…right?! ~fondly, Laurie

  5. Stacey Matchett     July 3, 2017    7:48 am    Reply

    I am so relieved to find out that I am not the only one! I felt rather silly about being diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 47 last year. Just a few days before I read this article I was wondering why I struggle so much with it now in my life. My wonderful, compassionate, and smart husband remarked that I have so much more to deal with now, which is very true. What you have stated here adds further clarity to my situation, offers a starting point for help, and gives me hope! Thank you so very much!

    • laurie     July 3, 2017    7:19 pm    Reply

      hi Stacey! Absolutely not the only one…there are many of us diagnosed later in life. Glad it gave you hope and a starting point. Let me know how else I can help make a difference. ~Laurie

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