The following Guest Blog was written by Dr. Billi Bittan of AttentionB.com, a contributor to the ADHD Awareness Book Project: Wacky Ways to Succeed with ADHD.
Visualization is a technique used to imagine yourself doing something that you have not yet physically done. For example, before gymnasts attempt a new move, they visualize them performing the action in their brain before even attempting the new move. This uses a part of the brain so when the new move is attempted, it will be easier to complete, since the gymnast has already envisioned the micro movements needed to accomplish the move. Similarly, you can use visualization for self-reflection.
Stand in front of a mirror, ideally in a small, quiet space. Look deeply into the mirror and study the person looking back at you. Observe the features, facial expressions and posture. Instead of the reality of looking at yourself in a mirror, imagine you are looking at the person you see through a window. What do you see in this person? A confident person? A fearful person? A timid person? What else? What emotions do you feel right now? Emotions are the fuel for motivation and will urge you to make necessary changes to be the best version of yourself.
This person you see is who others see right now. Now, close your eyes and think about your future self: who you want to be in the future and how you want others to see you. Open your eyes and look in the mirror again. Take note of the differences between ‘present you’ and ‘future you.’ Observe what needs to change in order for ‘present you’ to grow into ‘future you.’ What will you do?
Dr. Billi Bittan of AttentionB.com, MA, PhD, is an ADHD Specialist, Neuro-Cognitive Behavioral/Expressive Arts Therapist and Coach
Are you an ambivert? Sounds like some sort of odd green, warted, mythical creature slithering out of the primordial muck, doesn’t it?
Thank goodness it’s not…because I think I might be one. And you might be too. Let me explain…
Ambivert is a term I recently stumbled across on the internet that gave me a completely new answer to the “are you an introvert or extravert?” question. You see, according to most popular personality tests, people fall into one category – either an extravert or an introvert. An extravert being someone who seeks out the company of others and thrives in a crowd; while an introvert is someone who seeks out and is recharged by solitude.
For me, these options have been problematic because I have always tended to fall pretty much in between the two types. At times I could be extraverted, enjoying lots of animated interaction with others and choosing to be around people. But at the same time, I feel energized after spending time alone and find that I need the quiet just as much. It just seemed to depend on the situation.
According to psychologist Hans Eysenck, who coined the term “ambivert” in 1947, ambiverts offer a balance between the extra sensitivity of some introverts and the overbearing approach of some extroverts. This possibility of a third option who loves spending time with people, but who can also get tired with too much socializing made sense. It seems, rather than mythical or mysterious, ambiverts are simply flexible beings breaking down the stereotype that we have to be either or.
Curious if you’re an ambivert?
Here are eleven additional traits that you might also be an ambivert.
• You love being around people and you enjoy your solitude
• You can have extremely animated and interactive conversations with others and crave periods of time alone to think deeply
• You can take charge of a situation if needed or step down and let someone else lead
• You tend to need both personal and social time to be happy
• You process information or ideas both internally while alone and externally with people you trust
• You work well equally alone and in groups
• You enjoy deep diving into information and things you are passionate about and also seek knowing about a variety of things around you
• You are a good listener and a good conversationalist
• You seem to adapt easily to any situation and get along with a variety of people
• You have a good understanding of people, are intuitive and sense people’s emotions and are able to relate to them on many levels depending on the situation
• You know when to get involved and offer help in a situation or hold back and let another work it out.
Sound familiar? What do you think – are you an ambivert too?
In the end, just like with ADHD, who we are goes way beyond any medical or personality label, however having some understanding about different personality traits just might help you to understand yourself and others and empower you to enjoy more success in your personal and professional life.
Let me know what you think.
Pat is a mother of two awesome young men in their 20’s (both with alphabet soup diagnoses including ADHD and Autism Spectrum Disorder) and is a cat person. With Masters of Counseling Psychology and Social Work, she works in an agency that supports (in-home) parents who have a developmental or cognitive disability/impairment in building and maintaining parenting skills. She is also an adjunct facilitator in the Human Services program at Columbia College in an accelerated learning program. Hobbies include reading, writing poetry, and she hopes to one day publish strategy based ‘picture books’ for adults, using photos taken by her family. Click here to learn more about Patricia.
Here is one of Pat’s parenting strategies to help when your little one is a mover:
A) “Stay Still Place.” A hands-on visual strategy where a special pad is used as a “stay still place”. Praise the child often during a change time in order to reinforce staying still and give meaning to the word “still”. Praise the child even if he or she is able to stay still for a short time and state when child has stayed still enough for a longer period than before. If more than one pad is available, a toddler or older infant may be given the choice of which one will be the ‘stay still’ place this time.
B) Portable “special spot.” Staying in one spot is a major achievement and is not easy to master. A visual cue such as a towel, pad, small blanket that can easily be transported in a purse or “special spot bag” serves as a marker for the child (toddler, preschooler, etc.) to stay. Use positive phrasing such as “stand on your spot” rather than “don’t move” to inform the child ‘what to do’ rather than ‘what not to do’. Child can help make the ‘spot’ his or her own by decorating it before it is used. Suggestion: Use an identifying symbol such as an animal or a color rather than the child’s name on the item used as spot. As a parent with characteristics of ADD, I can become distracted and a ‘special spot’ could be a routine part of a shopping trip or other activity. I can also function better with less stimulation so focusing on the special spot could help screen out colors and items around me and decrease anxiety about my child’s safety and whereabouts.